Love & Inspiration From the Geriatric Wing

Corridor aspect, sign above denotes Geriatric Ward at Mount St. Joseph's HospitalWhile at the ER tonight with my elderly godparents, I couldn’t help but admire their zest for life, love (of the unspoken kind, actions not words) and principals, despite my godfather experiencing heart failure, fluid in his lungs and swelling from torso to toes. His role was ever the traditional protector and provider and he wouldn’t admit to being ill, completely denied all his symptoms. Luckily, god-mom is just as stubborn (never one to be a damsel in distress, she is fiercely independent, seniors ping pong and badminton champion) as he is and took him into the ER sooner rather than later, and was able to undergo treatment just in time.

At the hospital I observed many a tender moment. These moments had nothing to do with the obvious signs of affection however. Love knows no boundaries, knows no shame. This is what I saw and learned.

Bedpans and wipes, my godmother is there. She can’t eat until she sees him eating well. She sleeps only after he falls into slumber. She diligently watches over him and tends to his personal needs, only leaving after visiting hours to sleep at home and rising early in the morning to take her post by his bedside. And yet, my godfather will ask her how she is doing and attempts to distract her from worries with trivial conversation.

Anyone who knows them knows how much my godmother is normally spoiled by my godfather. Responsible to a fault, respected and stoic in character, he doted on her in his own strong and unspoken manner, reading her mind mostly. He drove her everywhere and took her up on every whim, consulted her for most domestic decisions. They never had children, not because they didn’t want to, but because they unfortunately couldn’t.

Enter me. Blessed from the womb, I became their goddaughter even before I could see the world. And I’m glad to bear witness to their old-fashioned love story; one that has survived Cultural Revolution, immigration, long distances apart, and family crises that seemed to only happen around them, but never affect them because of their strength and true consideration for one another. To my gratitude journal I write how grateful I am to be a part of their journey and to be inspired by their devotion to one another.

Summer Reading List 2015: Game-Changing Inspiration

Theressa reading the store map, to locate book sections on the shelves of Powell's Books. On a recent trip to Portland, Oregon, I not-so-accidentally landed in my favorite book shop (more like a department store for bookworms like myself). Most of you are probably thinking, why am I still reading the paper stuff? Though I’ve attempted to read from e-readers and my tablet, a book, to me, just has a different feel to it. I’m neither for, nor against, digital book forms, I can see the necessity for it at times. Personally, I like the substance, the physical volume reminds me to pick it up and not be distracted by the multiple other options surrounding it. My eyes feel less tired reading from paper and my battery is always drained from the use of other applications. I’m not here to preach about books and technology (and by now you may have discovered how much I love tech if you’ve read other posts, but I feel there is a time and place for everything). To each their own.

Sharing some (more to come soon) of my diverse finds from my recent haul, thanks to my beloved Powell’s City of Books and Costco (see Women Studies below), I have added the following to my Summer Reading List. Some are new releases, while others are just worth reading again and again.

  1. Business – Richard Branson’s,”Like a Virgin, Secrets They Won’t Teach You at Business School (2012),” is an eye opening read about his bumpy road to operating successful multi-billion dollar companies.  Branson reveals his unconventional entrepreneurial wisdom in tight to-the-point chapters, ideal for those with short attention spans, or others needing a high-value read while commuting. He also tackles the start-up process (in not so many words) and leadership skills.
  2. Personal Finance – For motivation, simplified tips and plans to reach financial responsibility and success, check out Nicole Lapin’s, “Rich Bitch (2015).”
  3. Spiritual – Seeking further direction for future volunteer contributions, I turned to Deepak Chopra’s collaboration with his son Gotham Chopra, “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Superheroes, Harnessing Our Power to Change the World (2007).” This is a fun and easy read, great gift for comic book buffs. There are examples and illustrations of comic superheroes to facilitate the discovery of a road map to your inner superhero.
  4. Life-Hack – If you have been like me, living under a rock, you may not have had the pleasure of reading Tim Ferriss’, The 4-Hour Work week.’ Highly recommended by so many friends and the New York Times Bestseller List over the years, I finally caved this trip and bought the expanded and updated edition (2009). Ferriss delivers many life hacks for starting up a business and ideas to overhauling routines to optimize time.
  5. Women’s Studies Mika Brzezinkski’s, ” Grow Your Value, Living and Working to Your Full Potential (2015),” is a easily digestible read about women in the work place.

Beyond the Gold Star Gesture: Recognition & Acknowledgement

Gold Medal On a Maple Leaf LanyardMy experience as a longtime volunteer to a variety of social and non-profit organizations got me thinking about how leaders rewards its teammates to encourage and develop organizational culture. In a recent dual role as volunteer board member and team leader for an industry association, I made it a point to note the interests and reasons why team members were eager to raise their hands for assignments. For volunteer roles, motivation isn’t always necessarily driven by career or monetary factors. For some it may seem obvious, reward them with praise or a blue ribbon. But, sometimes, what is valuable to one person may not be valuable to another.

For some the idea of a blue ribbon is liken to a grade school gold star. It’s nice, but not as fitting as say an opportunity to be the class captain for activities. And while for others, the same idea could be a most coveted situation to behold. Really, it boils down to knowing and understanding an individual’s aspirations. From the leadership perspective, building relationships with volunteers (much like it is with team members at work or on sports teams) is key to understanding personal and professional motivations and supporting a good fit. While from the volunteer perspective, it’s important for individuals to have a platform to share accomplishments. What I’ve come across is that the recipient will appreciate acknowledgement of their priorities with compatible opportunities in a safe development environment, just as much as the gesture of recognition.

Stretching Your Travel Dollar From an Unassuming Wanderluster

View towards tarmac from YVR passener holding areaMany of my friends and colleagues have often asked me about my approach to booking travel, this one is for them, thank you for inspiring me to share this with you here.

Do you prescribe to the myth that the best deals occur on trip bidding sites or on standby status? Reality Check! It’s all about research, research and more research! It can be worth it. It can be the difference between resting in four star luxury for the price of three star accommodation and sometimes the equivalent savings of a return flight. From the vault of my own travel experience, this is how I’ve come to get the best value for my wanderlust. Let me preempt that this isn’t intended for the audience that can take off on a whim. I’m like many of you who need to be considerate of work and other life commitments, in fact some of this knowledge has come from road warrior experience. But, also let me say that only you know what your preferences are. If you’re finding anything helpful from this post, only take what you need and adapt according to your needs and tastes.

Beware of days to book flights and hotels

  • Plan ahead (months ahead where possible), I can’t stress this enough, last minute deals aren’t as good as they used to be
  • Compare the prices for the same hotel and flight booked on a weekend versus a weekday and see if there is a difference*
  • Compare the prices again for the same hotel and flight booked in the morning versus the evening
  • I don’t know about you, but if my gut instinct sees a good deal, I nab it right away and halt further comparison shopping and don’t look back

Take it from Rick Steeves, if you think you’ve got a good deal, you better nab it before it’s gone.

*This may sound silly, but I’ve seen it before and yes I have had my moment also, it helps to remember to clear the cache from the browser to bring up the latest deal possible.

For some accommodations, such as with the larger chain hotels, you can often price match online deals with the chain’s own website offers and still consider options that cover a range of cancellation policies. If you have a AAA membership (CAA in most cases as well) or a partnership benefit, don’t forget to check off the special rate box for this. If you’re like me and happen to like a certain chain hotel experience, collecting rewards points on their member rewards cards can bring free hotel stays pretty quickly. However, watch out for the  credit card registration offers tied to these same establishments. Always consider the associated interest rates and rewards terms before signing up.

Makes Cents to Support Local Business

JJBean Store Front on CambieIt thrills me to see the steady expansion of smart local businesses (not to say that I don’t shop at mega international vendors, that tends to be a given). Smart means local coffee shops like JJ Bean, opening their 16th location in March. These businesses often figured out the region’s market formula. Starting off conservatively, these small businesses take just the right amount of time to brew consistent quality products and service while establishing a following before developing further their footprint.

For anyone who isn’t convinced that supporting local business is worth a second thought, check out Michael Salguero’s ( Huffington Post feature on why buying local is worth every cent. BC Stats reveals that small business in BC translates to over 1 million jobs, and almost one third of wages earned in the province. BC also operates the most small businesses per capita in Canada.

Looking to develop your own? Here’s some Canadian inspiration:

A Word or Two on Gratitude Can Make A Difference


William Arthur Ward Quote: Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessingsA tool of positive transformation can be found in gratitude. I used to just reflect, think, react and act on appreciation. However, nothing I find, is as potent as the visual form. It’s been a long while since I’ve kept a diary, this year I’ve returned to writing down my appreciative thoughts in a gratitude journal. People tend to forget so easily, but looking at my meaningful scribbles, it proves to show how much their is to be grateful for in a more tangible concrete sense. It is a most uplifting ritual. From time to time you’ll find my heartfelt messages of thanks from my journal entries this year posted here.

Mapping the Road Ahead

A wall with color coded sticky notes arranged by category cascading down a wall.From 2010, I’ve started each year with a rough personal plan on paper, a starting point if you will. I utilized a tool often used in project planning, some know it as mind mapping others know it as road mapping, but instead of diagrams, I combined it with sticky notes. Sticky notes makes sense for me because it exists in different colors and I use each color to represent categories of goals (pink for personal, green for financial, etc). Also, sticky notes could be moved and changed around on a wall. If I had written it in my notebook or saved it on my laptop I could easily file it away in a corner and forget about it, but with the sticky notes plastered on my walls, I would walk into my home office every day and be reminded of them and it would encourage me to literally stick with it. Now four years later,  what I’ve learned is that this system still works for me today with some customized adjustments for iterative purposes as I learn along the way. For instance, once I have distilled key annual goals, I’ll outline quarterly and daily action items to meet some of these goals and will continue to until, hopefully, a broad range of goals are reached.

Strategies for the Year Ahead

Royal blue pocket sized day planner from Harrods, open to calendar pageAfter reviewing the results of last year’s plans, I’m looking at the New Year as a new chapter, new goals to establish and carrying over some from the previous year. Advising a friend of mine who was searching for a way forward, having suffered a huge loss in 2014, I had this to say about goal setting.

“Goals should be bigger picture ideas for the year that are attainable. Mini targets that you set along the way to the larger end goals makes it a less daunting process. What works in sport and business can sometimes apply to life.“

Really, I didn’t have to tell my friend that, she already knew. In fact she was a devout practitioner in the years I’ve known her. With the vulnerable state she was in, she just needed a little reminder, as we all need every now and then. That’s what friends are for, to hand us the mirror without judgement.

To make planning simpler, I’m streamlining this year’s goal setting with a few key points:

1. Use the litmus test. Ask why the goal is considered in the first place. How is it aligned to who you are? How can it make your life better?

2. Keep it short. I am aiming for 5 to 10 depending on time and breadth.

3. Keep it simple.

4. Keep it iterative. Being agile has helped manage expectations, something I’ve practiced volunteering on a board)

5. Be accountable, set timelines and ways to monitor results.

6. Be social, good friends can encourage or remind you to stay the course, as per my example above.

7. Keep it fun and challenging. It’s a lot easier to reach for a goal when you can feel a sense of fulfillment and positivity.

8. Append a “wish list” to the shorter and simpler goals list. Keeping this separate list removes the distraction of disappointment to “nice-to-have” goals that may or may not be as manageable.

Happy planning and Happy New Year to all!

Highlights of Lessons Learned from 2014

Collage of four photos, top left fitbit device on wrist, top right deep end of pool overlooking the ocean, bottom left photo of program featuring Theressa as moderator, bottom right the knowledge seekers at TEDx Vancouver 2014Looking back on blog posts from the past 12 months there was so much to be learned. Here’s a roundup of five lessons learned from 2014. To read on about how I came across these gems of knowledge you can find related blog posts for these particular lessons referenced in their corresponding links.

5. Wearable technology can be a great agent of healthy habits. However, don’t expect to rely on it solely for this reason, the rest is always up to you.

4. Meetings aren’t always necessary. But, when it makes sense to hold one, a breadth of preparation and anticipation towards reasonable goals will help keep it on course.

3. The expression, “ don’t judge a book by its cover,” takes on new meaning as we trend towards geek chic.

2. Opportunities can be disguised as adverse decisions and situations. If unraveled, there could lay treasures of knowledge and experience.

1. The archetype of yesterday’s leadership isn’t necessarily relevant today. Being a humble leader could be the next best thing.

Why Geek is Chic in 2014

Geek is Good Bill Board in front of Science Museum on Broad Street in OxfordIn the 90s super brainy and socially awkward Steve Urkel from the TV sitcom Family Matters was considered the quintessential geek, a character that none of the cool kids in school aspired to be. According to the Oxford Dictionary a geek is defined as, “An unfashionable or socially inept person” or a knowledgeable and obsessive enthusiast.” Neither seems mutually exclusive. What seems to have happened in the last 20 years is a cultural shift, however.

How tables have turned. When it comes to career paths, today millennials are now aspiring to be the next Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Sheryl Sandberg and Marissa Meyer. These are modern business icons who are considered enthusiastic field experts. Even the geek style of the 90s, with large rim plastic frames, preppy checkered shirts, ankle grazers and bow ties, have returned as fashion statements, now coined “hipster” cool.

The most watched sitcom in 2014, with some of highest ratings each week as reported by, is The Big Bang Theory (TBBT). In case you haven’t caught an episode, the plot is based on the interactions between a woman and her two brilliant but socially awkward physicist neighbours. 2014 was also the year TBBT took home an Emmy ( for Outstanding Comedy Series.

Is it just another trend though? Does this mean jocks are out and geeks are in? Not necessarily true if pop culture is any indication. NFL football and other major sporting events still tend to top overall television ratings as most watched TV. Maybe instead, it’s a sign that field experts and obsessive enthusiasts are more of an understood social group than seen as an anomaly as in the past. Or maybe, it’s because it was the geeks who made it despite the 2008 recession that got attention and proved to have staying power and helped bolster the economy. And did you know that jocks, like Reggie Wilkes, who retired successfully were also knowledge obsessed? Whoops, did I let my geek speak slip again?

As a self-professed geek, I would say who cares about the naysayers, learn and do what you’re passionate about and everything else will follow. Whether it’s trending or not, seeking out knowledge and exploring enthusiastically should be celebrated, whether it’s for innovation or sport. We should all be so lucky to find the one thing that engages us and allows us to share knowledge and skills with others. The Big Bang Theory was with its Emmy win. Whether it’s for 2014 or in the future, so long as knowledge is sought for the greater purpose of helping others and building a brighter future, geek will always be chic in my books.