Be it a job or a favor, have you ever felt you’ve not understood all there is to an opportunity before committing to it? Perhaps you were distracted by the proverbial dangling of the carrot, be it the payoff or benefits. Or, maybe, you thought you were being of service to a friend. Then, only after the ink is dried or the promise made, you find the complexity involved in the job.
Also, known as being thrown into the deep end, I’ve been privy to the experience and you might have too. Sometimes expecting it and other times less prepared. In both cases what’s obvious about it is it can pose seemingly overwhelming challenges at first. But, what’s not obvious is the wealth of learning that can come of it if the opportunity is seized. It can become an invaluable tool of growth and development. I’m not going to diminish how scary or frustrating it might be at first. I’m also not saying that all learning has to be this challenging for it to be useful, but that it is possible to make the best out of daunting situations. Often I’ll reflect on a few questions to rationalize the situation, sometimes on my own and other times with close friends.
Here are some examples of questions to pose when treading water in the deep end:
- What am I thankful for today because of this experience?
- Empathetically, how are others in the situation feeling?
- What can I do to make things better?
- What did I learn from the experience?
- Precisely, if it had not been for this experience would I have learned what I needed to in order to be who I am today?
By, the time I’ve thought through these questions, the deep end has become a different place, a place where it’s possible for me to swim. I hope that you too can find your place to swim ashore.